What gives anyone the right to make you feel bad about your body?! To tell you that you aren’t beautiful?! Or that your body isn’t what it “should” be?!
Why is it necessary to be nasty and try to intimidate people – and because of their body?!? Come on people!
A lot of people are talking about body shaming at the moment, and for good reason – it’s a really important issue.
It is a form of bullying born out of playing on people’s insecurities, and frankly, it needs to stop. It is completely unnecessary – What exactly do the body shamers gain from it? A sick satisfaction that, what, they made someone feel crappy? I don’t get it!
The human body is one of the most beautiful things in existence, whatever shape or size, it’s incredible – and we shouldn’t let anyone make us feel bad about any of it!
My body might be more curvy than yours, my skin may not be as clear as yours, my muscles may not be as toned as yours, but do you know what? That doesn’t matter!
I’m happy, I’m healthy, and frankly, if you have nothing better to do than compare yourself to others and then make them feel bad if they don’t exactly fit society’s perception of what is “Beautiful” then it is you that I feel sorry for. (the proverbial “you” not specifically you reading this – I’m sure you are lovely!)
I am not a size 6 (UK), I eat cake, I eat bread, I eat cheese and I eat chocolate (shock horror!) – and I’m happily a size 10. I’m healthy AND I’m happy. If I didn’t eat these things, maybe I would be skinnier, but would that make me happier? I’m not convinced it would. A world without chocolate is just not worth finding out! Ha!
I am a very strong believer of “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all” and I think this is the perfect time to employ this phrase. Body Shamers of the world – shush yourselves!
Look at the women in your life – would you say any of them weren’t beautiful?! No! There are things you will notice about them that they don’t see as being beautiful at all. Things that they hide away.
I think we should make a pact, ladies – Instead of bringing each other down, lets build each other up! Let’s get rid of all this body shaming – let’s say what we love about each other instead!
I watched a video on Facebook this morning of a woman in Idaho who went into a busy market place, stripped to her underwear, blindfolded herself and requested (on a chalk board) that people who support self-acceptance “Draw On My Body” – she stood there for nearly an hour and at the end the messages drawn all over her body were messages saying “You are Beautiful”, “Believe”, “Hope” , “Awesome” and “I love your thinking”. There were no negative messages at all, she even got hugged by strangers in the street who just thought she was beautiful. By the end of the video there was no doubt, no matter whether she fits society’s perception or not, she IS beautiful and everyone thought so.
Society profits from our self doubt. So let’s defy that – ignore the body shamers – let’s love ourselves, let’s love each other and support each other. Let’s stand up against society’s perceptions and believe in ourselves. Eat Cake. Be Happy. Be comfortable in your own skin. No matter what shape or size, provided you are healthy and happy, you shouldn’t change a thing or let anyone intimidate you or make you feel any different –
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Kathryn O'ConnorSeptember 13, 2015 at 11:30 am
Very inspiring post. I've been thinking of doing a series surrounding issues that need more awareness and body shaming will be included!
It's so horrible that people still to this day think it's acceptable to discuss another's body, to the point of even criticising people's diets in some cases? Why do some think this is ok?
Body confidence is about learning to accept your own body, whatever shape or size it may be. Nobody should be putting down others! OK rant over, again fab post! xx
Kathryn | Chapters of Kat ❤
ReneeSeptember 13, 2015 at 1:06 pm
Wonderful post! This topic has actually been bothering me quite a bit recently and I was considering writing a post on it myself. I have people tell me to my face that i'm getting fat all the time. I seriously have no idea why they think thats okay? Do they think people aren't already painfully aware that they've gained weight? Ugh, some people. Anyway! Lovely post! 🙂
Renee | Lose The Road
AnonymousSeptember 13, 2015 at 5:49 pm
I am Heather from captureanddesign.com and I am so glad your post crossed my feed this morning. I saw a post on facebook that made me mad and all morning I have been writing about body appearance and being beautiful for who you are not what you look like! Thank you for your post!!! It now makes me want to press publish!
Charity HowellSeptember 14, 2015 at 8:15 am
I love this post so much <3 I'm so glad people are speaking up about it.
Rosie LadkinOctober 5, 2015 at 8:49 pm
I don't know – it is insane in my eyes! I can't process it!
Pleased you agree with me – let's just make everyone else see now! 🙂
Glad you like the post!
Rosie LadkinOctober 5, 2015 at 8:51 pm
For goodness sake!! Why is anyone else entitled to an opinion?!?! How dare they?!
What sad little people that they entertain themselves by making you feel bad!
You are beautiful. Remember it.
Rosie LadkinOctober 5, 2015 at 8:52 pm
So glad you liked the post – I totally agree – every single one of us is beautiful in our own way – and none should make anyone feel small, ever!
Rosie LadkinOctober 5, 2015 at 8:52 pm
So glad you like it sweetheart! 🙂